A friend of mine made a post asking the following two questions below. I wanted to share my response to him.
Why do bad things happen to good people?
Why don’t bad people get punished?
To quickly answer the second question…bad people do get punished.
Most “bad” people have internal struggles. Even if on the outside they look fine, they are obviously dealing with something that is negative enough for them to inflict pain or conflict on others. They don’t have inner peace. To go through life without inner peace is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. Thus, most “bad” people are suffering daily internally.
To address the first question…
Sometimes what seems like a bad thing, can be a blessing. To use myself as an example, when I had to leave school because of my illness I was distraught. I had a student loan to pay, no job, my health was miserable, and I thought I’d never be able to attend school again. But the situation forced me to look at other options and my life is actually better now, even with my illness, than it was before. I’ve created a life for myself that suites me better. A number of people have had similar experiences where a form of adversity actually helped to put them on track to a better life.
2. Sometimes it’s your fault. We don’t usually want to admit it, but sometimes we make mistakes that cause pain which could have been avoided if we just listened to ourselves. There is a voice that tries to warn you about someone or something. Perhaps your inner voice told you not to date that person, or not to go down that road. Unfortunately, we don’t always listen and terrible things can happen as a result. This is why the past can be your friend. If you live to tell about it, learn from it.
3. Most of what we call “bad things” is just life. Life flows in waves. Sometimes you get nice soft waves. Sometimes, it feels like the sea is tossing itself on you. You just have to try and deal with it the best you can. Use your resources, talk to people, and remember that nothing lasts forever; the problem will pass.
4. We are a bit too tolerant. Good people have a tendency to put up with garbage that they don’t need to. If more people spoke up, half the problems in this world wouldn’t exist. But people stay quiet when they should be shouting at the top of their lungs. If something is bothering you, say something. Fix it while you have some control over it, instead of hoping it goes way. It’s ok to put up a fight for your own happiness. It’s your life, after all.
If you are having trouble getting over a past pain, talk to me. My positive coaching will help you get through it