The sad fact is many people don’t see their value. They don’t know their worth, and they don’t know what they are good at. When I first started in the self-help industry I noticed that many of the so called gurus were actually promoting negative thinking. Most people are forced, daily, to think of their weaknesses. It’s no secret that we all have flaws, but why should we constantly remind ourselves of them. Sadly, many self-help “gurus” do just that. They encourage people to think about their flaws rather than their strong points. How are you supposed to feel motivated to live the life you were made for when you can’t see anything but your flaws?
There is a difference between recognizing your weaknesses and dwelling on them. It is important to know where your weaknesses lie and how they may hinder your success, but they aren’t all encompassing of who you are.
You are a collection of unique skills and strengths that may be going ignored. We are often so focussed on what we’re not good at that we forget to hone in on what we are good at, what comes easy to us, and all the ways we contribute to the world.
This is why I appreciate coaching: it takes on a positive perspective to who you are. It’s not just about finding out what is holding you back, but what you can do, right now, to move forward.
The problem with focussing on your weaknesses is it makes one feel as though they have to fix themselves and become a perfect person before they can even begin thinking of achieving their goals.
I want you to know, you don’t have to be flawless to achieve success. Finding your purpose and living a meaningful life has nothing to do with perfection.
Your strengths are your tools and they’re not going anyway. You just have to put them to use to create the life you want. A life coach can help you do just that.
Activity: Write four things you can do with ease. It doesn’t have to be something you love doing, but think of some things that you do well. eg, making friends, organizing files, negotiating, following directions.