We live in a world that is highly focussed on loss and gain. Our goals and priorities circle around what we are losing in life and what we gain or hope to gain.
In fact, most of our goals center around preventing some kind of loss, or overcoming it, and gaining something. But when was the last time you took time to appreciate all the good things that stay consistent . For example, you want to lose weight, or gain more money, but you have great friends and you’ve had them years. Focusing on the good things that have remained in our lives actually helps us deal with loss and achieve more.
1. You enter a state of gratitude. Gratitude is a surefire way to maintain positivity and contentment, which are essential for overcoming loss or working towards a goal.
For instance, perhaps you were in a relationship that ended but during the breakup your friends and family were there for you; you recognize that even though you lost the relationship you do have people that care about you. Gratitude lets you see that there are problems that you don’t have to deal with. This can help decrease your stress and increase your focus.
2. Focus your energy. We waste a lot of time on energy on things we don’t actually need, while neglecting parts of our lives that need our immediate attention.
When you take time to look at the parts of your life that are going well, it lets you to better focus on which aspects of your life actually need your time and energy.
Perhaps you have great friends, but you really need to get a hold of your finances; you know that you don’t need to waste time bringing people into your life, but you do need to work on managing your money more and there may be people in your life who can help you do that.
3. Use your strengths. Each of us is a vessel of resources but we don’t always make use of own strengths and talents to solve our problems.
If you have one aspect of your life that going well and you take time to recognize it, you can use any strength or talent you may have that is helping you and apply it to another part of your life. For example, you have great support but you want to start your own business. You can use your people skills to help you network and gain more resources to help you start a successful business